The truth is - losing weight is very, very hard.
I am usually the loudest cheerleader, the one to always find a silver lining. I believe that we can all do anything we want...it is part of my personality. Truthfully, the difficulty of losing weight often collided like a Boeing 747 into my optimism for crushing defeats, and sometimes treacherous depressions. After all, we can do ANYTHING...why can't I just control my eating!!!
Especially when you have some "success" losing weight too (that is losing over 100 pounds and keeping it off for over 2 years)...you feel that you should "get" it by now. Reading a recent Half their size magazine at the store helped me to realize that most of us ALWAYS have to work to "get it"; over and over and over again.
Losing weight really isn't about learning to control our eating - it is about learning to manage our feelings and not use food to do it. In much the same way as an addict must confront feelings - and learn to cope with them appropriately, obese men and women need to learn that there really isn't any such thing as a comfort food. Food is energy - and the specific make-up of the calories can make us physically feel different; just like different drugs can stimulate or sedate us - but NONE of that takes the place of feeling.
Scientists and researchers are starting to learn the essentials of how food can trigger the same reward systems as cocaine and heroin. Anyone who has ever binged more than a few times could have told you the same thing...it makes us FEEL different. Frequently euphoric, then numb...the high gets shorter and shorter for the amount of physical discomfort you have to endure...after all, our stomach can only take in so much food, and our liver can only break down so much sugar.
No matter where the science is - I know that I have to pay attention to my actions around food. I suspect it will always be that way. The good news is I don't have to be 300 pounds and miserable at the same time. If being attentive to what I eat and WHY I am eating is what I must do, then like a person with heart disease who has to take a pill every day, that is what must be done. Part of the battle won is in eliminating the extra weight and feeling better about myself on a daily basis - because I CHANGED - not because food changed. It will always be there.